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Adding up the time

Anita and I rarely went a day when we did not see each other. I’m not sure how other couples do it – sometimes I felt like everyone did it like us and other times I felt like we were completely unique (weird).

We were married for 5,479 days (15 years plus 1 day). Prior [...]

I will watch over you

I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will councel you and watch over you. – Psalm 32:8

This was the verse in the whole bible that spoke to Anita the most. She told me so. I’ve said before, when she found something inspirational, she printed it out on an [...]

Are you struggling for the right reasons?

Found this as a Word file on Anita’s computer yesterday. I’m not sure who this was meant for – maybe for a book, maybe just herself. Sometimes we foolishly thought that working from home would bring less worries – but it didn’t, just different worries.

She finally figured out that why she really wanted to [...]

The laundry is never done

Dear Anita –

The laundry is never done.
The bathrooms don’t stay clean.
The dishes get dirty.
The desk gets messier.

Real love is an action

I flipped open Anita’s bible tonight and found this index card:

Real love is an action, not a feeling.
Note at 1 John 3:16
1) Repent for your own transgressions.
2) Pray for those who harm you.

I remember the first time Anita laid that on me: love is an action, not a feeling. We were having one of our [...]

The Joy of Learning

This is a fantastic email with an attached essay that Anita wrote in 2006. It was during the time when she was exploring being a writer and it’s picture is beautifully painted by Anita. (She even put a copyright on it – what a lawyer!)

From her friend Caroline:

I was reminded of this email that Anita [...]

Let me cut right to the chase

This one is a little different. Anita had been struggling for a couple of years with doing a web site (she couldn’t quiet find the right look, she wanted it to have a lot of useful content) and a direct mail newsletter (that she never quite found the time to create a mailing list for). [...]

Work is an Act of Worship

On a sheet of paper taped to the wall of our bedroom (formerly Anita’s office) says, “Work is an Act of Worship.”

I used to be afriad that Anita was a workaholic. She was the hardest working person I ever met. In law school, she studied endlessly. At her firms, she was gone long hours. I [...]

The Mom Thing

I am really hoping more people will share stories and memories of Anita with my family. Everything I have received so far is amazing. This is one I got from one of her friends in our neighborhood.

I’ve been trying to gather my thoughts and find the right words to say about Anita. When I think [...]

The worst thing that can happen

It might literally take me years to sort through all of Anita’s old papers, journals, etc. For example, today I was looking at her computer and found a folder “From Greg”. She had filed the following email in there that she had sent to herself from my computer.

I imagine her sitting at my computer on [...]