Accept the situation

(I just found this on Anita’s computer dated 4/26/09. I’m sure she was reading this to reinforce her lessons on acceptance. However, it is from an article about overcoming grief – link at the bottom. Reading this made me shiver.)

2) ACCEPT THE SITUATION
When you truly, deeply accept the situation, and I mean accept it as if you had chosen it, you will release all “victim” energy. Thoughts and feelings that you have been victimized repel happiness.

In my case, I was blessed with a dream on the second anniversary of my husband’s death. In this dream, I met my husband at the airport and raged, “How could you rip my heart out? How could you die beside me?” I confronted him with his ultimate betrayal, “How could you leave our son without his father?!”

In this dream, my late husband asked me three questions. “If you had it to do all over again, would you still marry me?”

I thought for just a moment, flooded with happy memories. I would take my time with him, though it be short. “Yes.”

“If you had it to do all over again, would you still have our son?” This time the answer was quicker, surer. He’s the light of my life, my joy, my blessing! “Yes!”

And then he asked the final question, “Given that, would you want to know that I would die young?”

His question gave me pause. Would I choose to taint our joy with dread? I looked into my heart, and after a long moment, realized the answer. “No.”

This dream changed my life. I was freed from the idea that I was a victim of fate. You can free yourself, too, by simply imagining the possibility that you were spared a much worse fate. Once you accept your “lemons,” you can make lemonade.

http://www.aurorawinter.com/articles/from_heartbreak_to_happiness.html