Comments on: Death certificate, coroner’s report

By: Carolyn Hann

Carolyn Hann — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 22:29:22 +0000

Greg, thank you for sharing this information. I realize that there is a disconnect between a reaching a medical conclusion and feeling emotional closure. As I read your update, I kept thinking about Anita’s bright eyes and her wonderful smile. I hope you and your family are okay.

By: Ninaplus4♥

Ninaplus4♥ — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 19:17:16 +0000

Greg, It has taken me so long to write this…I wanted to write the first day I read it but I couldn’t bring myself to. I hope this brings you some closure. I know it doesn’t lessen your pain, but at least now we have a reason. I kind of suspected it was related to the pregnancy but wasn’t certain. I think of her often, miss her often, and see her in your children’s faces. She lives in my heart and head always. Wishing your beautiful family all the peace and healing in the world.

By: Molly

Molly — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 07:37:16 +0000

I’m sorry, I’ve taken so long to get back to you Greg, I have had to take some time to digest this. I can’t begin to say how sorry I am. I still struggle with the “Why God”.
I had a “gut feeling” this placental abruption was a possiblity. Just something I kept mulling over in the months following Anita’s death.
The only relief in knowing the cause is to put a label on it and to know for your girls health in the future. I am truly sorry, Greg. I wish I could go back in time and call her again or hear her laugh, selfish… I know. I pray for you and your beautiful family every night. You are loved from Nebraska and from the classmates of a much beloved girl with an infectious laugh and beautiful smile. She was everybody’s friend and made us all better people by gracing us with her presence in our lives, even if for a brief time.
God Bless you and I wish you peace!

By: Mom

Mom — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 17:29:15 +0000

All of the others have said it…all. Knowing really doesn’t make you less tired physically, but perhaps mentally and spiritually you have found some solace. We all love you.
The Lord bless you and keep you;
the lord make his face shine upon you
and be gracious to you; the lord turn his
face toward you and give you peace.
Numbers 6:24-26
(This is your dad’s favorite passage)

By: Arnitta

Arnitta — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 14:47:04 +0000

I am truly sorry about her death. I knew that it had to be something that could not be easily explained because Anita was so vibrant and full of life. She is and will be missed by us all. I commend you on your strength in being able to let us know what really happened to her. I know that was difficult to do. All my blessings.

By: Cindy Mather Radtke

Cindy Mather Radtke — Thu, 07 Jan 2010 01:27:13 +0000

Thank you for sharing. I think this helps all who knew her in some small way. Also, perhaps, more information to warn people about who are pregnant. So sorry. As always, prayers are with you and the children as nothing really takes away the pain. We are always here to read your posts and share your burdens. Blessings.

By: Mimi @ The Things We do

Mimi @ The Things We do — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 21:16:09 +0000

I hope knowing the cause will help you heal and bring you some sort of closure. I think Sarah VDP said it best….

By: Sarah VDP

Sarah VDP — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 18:33:07 +0000

Wow–this is hard, but I think that it in some sense helps–me, at least… It somehow makes it a bit easier to accept because there’s a “porque”, as they say in Spanish–there’s a “because.” And that “porque” was her heart–ironically one of the most expansive hearts we’ve ever known. It doesn’t make things better or take anything back, but in some sense it allows me to say, well there was something tangible that caused her death and that’s more concrete. I hope this brings some measure of peace, if not any lessening of the pain. We’re always thinking about you four and send you our love!

By: Rachel L

Rachel L — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 16:36:43 +0000

I don’t know what to say. I’m so sorry.