Anita's Love

“Time heals all wounds,” so it is said. But in truth, it takes a lot more than time.

It’s been 2 years and 4 months since Anita died. Christmas 2010 was a horrible time – not the day itself but the entire month of December that year brought stress and pain piled upon itself. But Christmas [...]

In the first couple of months after Anita died, I had dreams where she would make an appearance. At the time, I spent my days in sorrowful numbness, so the dreams were my chance to see her again. I typically awoke with a smile and a feeling – almost like relief – that I could [...]

I keep trying to fool myself that as time goes on it will be easier to talk to people about Anita’s death. In most cases, it is not a problem, at least when the people already know she is gone. But in the last two days I have thrice run into situations where people did not know. [...]

Note: this post is disturbing, so you may not want to read it. It is also a spoiler for the movie “Inception”.

I picked the wrong movie to see tonight. From the previews, I thought “Inception” was something like Matrix. From the two short reviews I read, I thought it might be the movie of the decade. [...]

Tomorrow is 11 months since Anita died, so the one year mark is a short time away. I have been on vacation and haven’t been focused on August or even given it any thought.

But in the last few days a number of people have asked me questions along the lines of “what are you going [...]

I didn’t got so far as to tell my kids that yesterday was the worst of my eight Father’s Days, but it was. I honestly can’t think of previously bad Father’s Day, not even the one five years ago when we spent the day driving from Chicago to Atlanta in a U-Haul truck and Anita [...]