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Six Months

Anita died six months ago today. Six months. It’s weird to say it. Is it weird to hear it? How could that much time have passed? I can recall that day like it was yesterday (not that I always want to).

I remember sitting at home a few days after she died and thinking to myself [...]

God in it all

I’ve got to stop thinking “I need to get away from it all”. That’s the thinking that leads me to follow the Devil’s temptations and distract myself from God and His purpose for me.

I need to try to see God in it all.

Brother Lawrence described doing everything for God “with an even, uninterrupted composure and tranquility [...]

Valentine’s Day – the best and the worst

This is my first Valentine’s Day without Anita since 1993. It is very tempting to be sad, another lonely single person detesting the day of love and romance. I’ll try not to dwell too much on that instead reflecting on Valentine’s Days past.Anita and I agreed early on that this was a manufactured holiday, but [...]

Marriage

With Valentine’s Day coming up tomorrow, I have seen a lot of articles this week about marriage (maybe that is surprising – we might expect to see a lot of articles about love). This article in the Atlanta-Journal Constitution said we should commit to marriage itself more than the other person; this one said we need [...]

Penny’s 2nd birthday

Today is Penny’s 2nd birthday. I have made it through Julia’s birthday, Anita’s birthday, Ben’s birthday, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year’s Eve and now it is Penny’s birthday. Every holiday is hard.

I was sitting at my older daughter’s school program last night and thinking that two years ago at that time I was driving Anita to [...]

She saw inside of us

Before I met Anita, I felt like a balloon – shiny and fun on the outside but hollow on the inside. Then I met Anita and she immediately saw inside of me and said, “No, the inside is the best bit.” And I believed her.

Because she believed in me, I believed in myself. I learned [...]

Bittersweet Symphony

Have you ever heard this song by The Verve called “Bittersweet Symphony”? Most of you probably. Rolling Stone named it one of the best rock songs of all time. If not, here’s the video:

Here are some of the lyrics:

‘Cause it’s a bittersweet symphony this life
Trying to make ends meet, you’re a slave to the [...]

Is there relief from grief?

When I said, “My foot is slipping,”
     your love, O LORD, supported me.
When anxiety was great within me,
     your consolation brought joy to my soul.
- Psalm 94:18-19

This verse was in a book about grief recovery and it got me to thinking.

What if I trust in God but don’t feel secure?

What if I pray and don’t [...]

Pondering friendship

Why?
Why is it so hard to find good friends?
And when you do find them why is it so hard to keep them?
Aren’t we all looking for the same thing?
Someone you can tell anything to, and know its safe with them.
Someone who understands who you are, and won’t try and change you.
Someone who loves you even [...]

Old friends

It’s never too late…

to find old friends

They’re like gems.
Links to our past.
Sea anchors in a storm.
They bring Solidity.
A chance for reflection.
A like in our life chain.
A continuum

“The best mirror is an old friend.” – Proverb

A couple weeks ago I bought this book, “It’s Never Too Late” by Patrick Lindsay. It has a bunch of what [...]