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Marriage

With Valentine’s Day coming up tomorrow, I have seen a lot of articles this week about marriage (maybe that is surprising – we might expect to see a lot of articles about love). This article in the Atlanta-Journal Constitution said we should commit to marriage itself more than the other person; this one said we need [...]

Penny’s 2nd birthday

Today is Penny’s 2nd birthday. I have made it through Julia’s birthday, Anita’s birthday, Ben’s birthday, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year’s Eve and now it is Penny’s birthday. Every holiday is hard.

I was sitting at my older daughter’s school program last night and thinking that two years ago at that time I was driving Anita to [...]

She saw inside of us

Before I met Anita, I felt like a balloon – shiny and fun on the outside but hollow on the inside. Then I met Anita and she immediately saw inside of me and said, “No, the inside is the best bit.” And I believed her.

Because she believed in me, I believed in myself. I learned [...]

Bittersweet Symphony

Have you ever heard this song by The Verve called “Bittersweet Symphony”? Most of you probably. Rolling Stone named it one of the best rock songs of all time. If not, here’s the video:

Here are some of the lyrics:

‘Cause it’s a bittersweet symphony this life
Trying to make ends meet, you’re a slave to the [...]

Is there relief from grief?

When I said, “My foot is slipping,”
     your love, O LORD, supported me.
When anxiety was great within me,
     your consolation brought joy to my soul.
- Psalm 94:18-19

This verse was in a book about grief recovery and it got me to thinking.

What if I trust in God but don’t feel secure?

What if I pray and don’t [...]

Pondering friendship

Why?
Why is it so hard to find good friends?
And when you do find them why is it so hard to keep them?
Aren’t we all looking for the same thing?
Someone you can tell anything to, and know its safe with them.
Someone who understands who you are, and won’t try and change you.
Someone who loves you even [...]

Old friends

It’s never too late…

to find old friends

They’re like gems.
Links to our past.
Sea anchors in a storm.
They bring Solidity.
A chance for reflection.
A like in our life chain.
A continuum

“The best mirror is an old friend.” – Proverb

A couple weeks ago I bought this book, “It’s Never Too Late” by Patrick Lindsay. It has a bunch of what [...]

Take up your cross

I’ve been having a problem lately. The problem is taking up my cross. As time has passed, my focus has blurred, motivations floundered and the details of life intervened. I realized some days I had gone without even seeing a picture of Anita, let alone preserving her memory and sharing her love (which I believe is [...]

Unforgiven

People who know me know that I spend a lot of time analyzing things (maybe way too much time) and so it was after Anita’s death. A million things came into my mind and one of the stranger ones was a pair of movies: Bye Bye Love (Paul Riser) about three single dads and how [...]

Strength and weakness

Those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary; they will work and not be faint.
- Isaiah 40:31

I have been meditating on strength and weakness for the last week (maybe more). I recently spoke with a man who lost his [...]